Dear Love Me Guru

Dear Love Me Guru,

I’m a 29 year old female marketer. When I was about to graduate college, I felt so optimistic about the future. I just knew I would land an amazing job, fill my passport with stamps of all the cool places I’d visit, meet the love of my life, buy a house, adopt a pet, and live in suburban bliss.

Instead, the reality is much much different. I find myself working at a dead end job I hate, the last trip I took was to the DMV, there is no love interest in sight, I’m living in a tiny apartment, and the only pet I have is the spider hiding in my closet. Things have not panned out the way I imagined. This is not the life I wanted. I feel I’m headed nowhere. I feel stuck! What can I do?

– Lost in Life

Dear Lost in Life,

When I was younger, I too had a plan: become a lawyer, then a politician. Yikes! I know, right?! I didn’t say it was a good plan. Just that I had one. The world doesn’t need another lawyer or politician. So thankfully, my plan didn’t come true.

Alice in Wonderland

Remember the scene in Alice in Wonderland, where Alice is lost and meets the Cheshire cat? She asks the cat:

“Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?”

“That depends a good deal on where you want to get to,” said the Cat.

“I don’t much care where” — said Alice.

“Then it doesn’t matter which way you go,” said the Cat.

“ — so long as I get somewhere,” Alice added as an explanation.

“Oh, you’re sure to do that,” said the Cat, “if you only walk long enough.”

Unlike Alice, you care very much about where you go, and you’re painfully aware that you’re nowhere near there. The good news is that your current circumstances aren’t permanent. You have the power to direct your life. You can hit the reset button and start fresh. You can “walk long enough,” and reach your desired destination. THERE IS MUCH JOY AHEAD!

Dead End People

There are no dead end jobs, no dead end relationships, no dead end dreams. Only dead end people.

You know the ones: disillusioned, pessimistic, and cynical. To those folks, the world is full of things they are not getting, and there is a short supply of what they truly desire. They view their life as a maze full of dead ends, and don’t realize they create those dead ends themselves. For them, once an opportunity is lost, it’s not coming back. Their favorite phrase is: “It’s too late.” Dead end people are disappointed when things don’t go their way, and relive that disappointment every . . . single . . . day.

Rather than being a dead end person, be a hustler.


Hustlers don’t wait around for good things to come to them, they go out and make them happen. They turn setbacks into feedback, learn from their mistakes, and improve for the next challenge. They build themselves, and those around them. The opportunities of a hustler end when the hustler stops searching.

Have you heard of Harriet Thompson? No? Neither had I until last year, when at the age of 92, Harriet became the oldest woman to finish a marathon. It wasn’t her first marathon either. It was her 16th! Harriet began running marathons when she was 76 years old!

Even more inspiring, Harriet ran the marathon while suffering from a form of cancer in her legs. Now that’s a hustler!

Your Choice

Would you rather live the unfulfilling life of a dead end person? Or would you rather be a hustler and create the life you want? It’s all up to you. It’s in your hands. You are “the master of your fate, the captain of your soul.”

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